An Ode To Face Sitting

Face Sitting


Oral pleasure is one of my favourite sexual acts and it is always interesting when your partner and you come up with different ways to incite your favourite pleasures. But what happens if you dive into a deeper world of sexual fantasies and experimentation, only to find the act in question – while consensual – is also dangerous?

This was a unique situation I found myself in with a guy I was dating who loved asphyxiation via face sitting.

Now depending on the person, face sitting isn’t necessarily everyone’s cup of tea – it certainly isn’t mine, and it certainly isn’t for the girlfriends I discussed it with. Our general dislike for face sitting actually stems from the wonderful world of body shaming that we live in. We disliked the portion of this sexual act that saw us looking down and seeing only inflated stomachs, getting lost in the idea of our partner also looking up and seeing only the rolls we had for lunch.

Now from what I hear, the guys honestly don’t give a shit. There is a vagina on their face so they are just happy to have a found a woman who was keen to take off their clothes in the first place. They’re just happy to be there.

But this was this guy’s particular kink – he fucking loved the idea of being so completely smothered in pussy until he couldn’t breathe. Now I’ve done face sitting with someone else since and they weren’t as keen to get their air supply cut off like he was, but this guy wanted to see stars and almost pass out from my pussy.

I was in a period of loving rough sex so the idea of making this guy pass out under my pussy seemed like a lot of fun. I was the one in control and it felt empowering. But I also hadn’t done any face sitting before. Once he told me his particular kink I actually looked up porn videos for helpful instructions of how to make someone pass out under the sheer power of my vagina muscles. Surprisingly I found a very helpful instruction video where a girl was teaching another girl how to do it, and I practiced on my pillow.

Yes – that’s sexy. Not.

But the guy was blown away that I had actually bothered to research how to do his particular fantasy and when I saw him again it was great fun to try. The first time there was less asphyxiation than he would have liked, but I took the notes on board and tried again.
The thing to do is that you have to completely commit to the face sit. Do not be scared that you will break their nose or their face. They can tap out if they need to (always make sure you have a tapping signal to ensure you don’t actually kill them!) so don’t worry about breaking their nose. Honestly, at one point his tongue was so firmly deep inside his mouth that he was actually just fucking me with his nose.

Have you ever came just from someone putting their nose inside you? It’s a unique experience.

So when face sitting you want to completely cover the nose and mouth with your pussy. It may take some adjustment when you do to sit on them, but the best advice I can give is to just commit to it. Then go to fucking town!

With the asphyxiation part of face sitting the point is to not let them up. Cut off their air supply until they can’t take anymore and have to tap out. Then in a swift movement, pull your body up off them and plant it back down on them. This should only take two seconds or so before you begin the affect again, just so they have enough time to get a little bit of air so they can keep pleasuring you.

After a while I started playing with the timeframes. He told me wanted to almost pass out from pussy, so that is what I aimed to do. He tapped out, and then I gave him ten more seconds before I let him up.

And boy was he seeing stars.

Dangerously, the last time I had sex with this guy was the night before we broke up and I was pretty drunk. I had a tendency to wait longer and longer to appease his desire to be smothered, and while the sex was enjoyable it was certainly teetering on the edge of making him actually pass out. I truly regret doing this at the time, because looking back I don’t actually remember anything about the sex we had. So the likelihood is that I am less keen to try a full asphyxiation smothering again – I could have actually made him pass out, and that is in no way fun or pleasurable.

The moral of my story is that if you are looking at exploring a world of deeper fantasies that may be considered dangerous, it’s completely ok to do so, but you need to always ensure that you are safe about these practices.

You can do this by ensuring that you never do it while under the influence of drugs or alcohol, and learn the proper technique to avoid injuries. Commit to the practice and do it right and always discuss your safe words and signals to ensure everyone is having an enjoyable time. Find out if your partner wants to be completely smothered, or if breathing room is desired. Make sure their hands are free to tap out as well so that you can get off them quickly if need be.

Sex on the edge of a precipice can be fun and exciting, but safe sex is always much more sexier!

Bunny Butterscotch

Bunny Butterscotch

Bunny Butterscotch knows the good, the bad, and the ugly when it comes to a modern day sex life and isn't afraid to talk about it. With a high sex drive and a dirty mind, Bunny navigates her collection of real life sexual encounters and learning curves with an honest outlook. She is a professional writer and author from Canberra.

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