It’s hard to let go of the past and it’s hard to let go of friendships and relationships that were once extremely important to you, but that’s just a part of life. At the moment I’m going through a transitionary sort of phase where I’m finding myself making new friends and losing old ones. This isn’t a bad thing and happens all throughout your life. It’s usually when you are trying to figure out what you want to do with your life and what you want out of it.
There have been many times where I’ve felt the need to be the same as everybody else, to follow the rules and find my way along an already laid out path. I’m slowly learning not to do this and wanted to share my thoughts on the subject.
Although this may sound super corny but we grow and we change (I told you it was corny). We find new interests, friends, places to live, and new passions and I think that’s really exciting. It means that nothing is static, that the bad times too shall pass and that life is unexpected so we should embrace and learn to enjoy the fact that we can’t control everything. You should think of everyday as an opportunity to learn and create for yourself the world you want to live in.
Don’t feel the need to be the same as everybody else. I know it’s easier said than done but with practise you can remind yourself that this is your life and you are the one that has to live it. You don’t have to be doing what your friends are doing and you most certainly don’t have to be doing what’s deemed ‘cool’.
“Nobody cares if you don’t go to the party.”
I stumbled across this quote on Instagram a while ago and it stuck with me. What I believe it means is that you are the one who defines your life. You are the one making the choices and choosing the direction you want to go in. If you aren’t having fun, change what you’re doing. If you are truly unhappy and can find a way out, do it. If you don’t want to go to the party, don’t go.
I’m a big believer in things happening for a reason. I believe that the people you come across in life have a purpose to fill and will stay there if that’s supposed to happen. I also believe that each one of us is lucky enough to be ourselves and we should cherish the fact that we are all different.
So at the moment I’m simply allowing things to happen on their own accord, to embrace this transitionary phase and let go of my somewhat controlling nature. I feel it’s important to open yourself up to new experiences, new friendships and new life lessons and I’m excited to challenge myself to be different.
I’ve often compared myself to others, to how they look, what they have, who their friends are and what their doing but that just makes me forget how lucky I really am. Life is meant to be lived in your shoes, through your eyes. Think about it this way: you are alive and well so make it count. Life’s short so go out, be adventurous, explore and try new things. Enjoy the moment and enjoy what’s most important to you.
One last thing, be grateful. Saying thank you more often leads to an extraordinary life.