Seeking a Boyfriend for the End of the World


  I have been single for about a year and a half now and while my needs may have changed during that period, I have never stopped searching for a romantic partner. In my fundamental core I want a person that I am attracted to, am compatible with, have great sex with, and can grow with — is that so much to ask? Apparently it is, because I am still searching for that partner to cuddle up on the couch with, go out to dinner with and have adventures with. It just never seems to work out. Maybe it’s because… Continue Reading

The Rule of Thirds: Should You Wait Until The Third Date To Have Sex?


  There are many rules when it comes to dating, but one of the most well known is that you shouldn’t sleep with someone until the third date. The ideology behind this is that you can set boundaries for yourself and for others, that you can figure out if you actually like the person and get to know them first, and also so that you are not seen as ‘easy’ or a ‘slut’. Some people swear by the third date rule while others take a ‘who cares?’ approach. But in this modern age of dating, ghosting and Tinder does waiting… Continue Reading

Independent Togetherness – Addressing the Stigma of Remaining Unmarried


  Jesse and I have been a couple for almost five years. We own a home together. We have similar core values. We actively plan for our shared future. We are unmarried. And have no plans of becoming so. And up until recently, I have been very happy with this mutually made decision. Our relationship centres on our self-devised philosophy of independent togetherness. Although we are navigating our lives together, we maintain an element of separateness, which suits our respective temperaments and situations. Jesse requires alone time to recharge; I am often out and about attending events and taking meetings,… Continue Reading

In Defence of Unsexy Sex


  It wasn’t meant to be like this. It was meant to be candlelight and a perfectly curated playlist and rose petals on the bed and me opening the front door to you in nothing but a silk dressing gown; yet here we are, on a rainy Tuesday night, and I can hear the neighbour’s radio while the smell of the weekly batch of chilli wafts in from the kitchen and I’m having sex wearing a scarf; and not a sexy scarf, I might add. It’s the type of chunky-knit woollen scarf that one’s grandmother makes them because our tiny,… Continue Reading

Leiden Podcast – Episode 6: A Look Inside A Relationship


  This is Leiden Podcast a fortnightly podcast discussing all our favourite things: fashion, beauty, health and fitness. But we don’t stop there, we also interview amazing people, talk about relationships, books, pop culture, money and sex. In our sixth episode the cutest couple we know Leiden editor Emma Batchelor and copy editor Jesse Petrie chat about their relationship and whether or not they should get married. Leiden Podcast and it’s catchy jingle are produced by the greatest guy around Roshan Fernandez. Our artwork features an illustration of the ‘Leiden girl’ by Johanna Dziadkiewicz.   Links London College of Fashion… Continue Reading

Leiden Podcast – Episode 4: Relationships and Alcohol


  Welcome to Leiden Podcast a fortnightly podcast discussing all our favourite things: fashion, beauty, health and fitness. But we don’t stop there, we also interview amazing people, talk about relationships, books, pop culture, money and sex. In our fourth episode Leiden editor Emma Batchelor chats with Leiden gal Miriam Walsh about all the incredibly interesting things they have been doing, sex and relationships and alcohol. Leiden Podcast and it’s catchy jingle are produced by the greatest guy around Roshan Fernandez. Our artwork features an illustration of the ‘Leiden girl’ by Johanna Dziadkiewicz.   Links Alone: A Love Story Podcast… Continue Reading

Why Being Single Can Be Fun


  Being single can be really fun. It can be so fun that even committing to simple things like dinner with a friend can be hard. Is it then any wonder that the thought of sharing my life with a significant other makes me feel like there’s something very tight and possibly made of fire and glass around my neck? Being single when you’re a woman of my vintage, can really open you up to judgments, because let’s face it: if you’re single past a certain age group, people think that you’re either emotionally unstable, sit in the corner at… Continue Reading

The Dating Game – One Girl’s Tinder Journey


  After eating too many blocks of Caramello, countless packets of Twisties, and rewatching The Notebook more times than I care to admit (yes, I am that pathetically clichéd), I emerged from my post-break up hole and was once again single and ready to bloody well mingle. Whilst I never imagined myself getting Tinder, after one too many vinos with my fellow single girlfriends, we were all downloading the app and swiping left, right and center. And so begins my weird and wonderful Tinder journey. Whilst I’ve had some fantastic experiences and great dates thanks to Tinder, there have also been… Continue Reading