Just Not That Into You: The Friendzone Explained


You’ve no doubt heard the term ‘friendzone’ a lot but in case you haven’t, what you need to know is that in pop culture the friend zone refers to a situation in which one member of a friendship wants a romantic or sexual relationship with the other person but this other person isn’t interested. This puts the rejected person squarely into friendzone, which usually ends up tugging on their heartstrings and causing quite a bit of heartbreak. Friends are very close to each other. They share their lives, their hopes and their dreams with their other person, so it’s very… Continue Reading

When Consent Changes: Sex and Mental Health


  Mental health is an extremely common denominator when it comes to interacting with people, and one in four people will be affected by mental or neurological disorders at some point in their life. These kind of disorders can range from depression and anxiety to more psychotic disorders such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorders and can vary depending on the person, their chemical balances and their lifestyles. I believe in tearing down the walls when it comes to the stigma that is mental health as I suffer from depression, anxiety and addiction due to the traumatic experience of divorcing my… Continue Reading

Seeking a Boyfriend for the End of the World


  I have been single for about a year and a half now and while my needs may have changed during that period, I have never stopped searching for a romantic partner. In my fundamental core I want a person that I am attracted to, am compatible with, have great sex with, and can grow with — is that so much to ask? Apparently it is, because I am still searching for that partner to cuddle up on the couch with, go out to dinner with and have adventures with. It just never seems to work out. Maybe it’s because… Continue Reading

The Rule of Thirds: Should You Wait Until The Third Date To Have Sex?


  There are many rules when it comes to dating, but one of the most well known is that you shouldn’t sleep with someone until the third date. The ideology behind this is that you can set boundaries for yourself and for others, that you can figure out if you actually like the person and get to know them first, and also so that you are not seen as ‘easy’ or a ‘slut’. Some people swear by the third date rule while others take a ‘who cares?’ approach. But in this modern age of dating, ghosting and Tinder does waiting… Continue Reading

Independent Togetherness – Addressing the Stigma of Remaining Unmarried


  Jesse and I have been a couple for almost five years. We own a home together. We have similar core values. We actively plan for our shared future. We are unmarried. And have no plans of becoming so. And up until recently, I have been very happy with this mutually made decision. Our relationship centres on our self-devised philosophy of independent togetherness. Although we are navigating our lives together, we maintain an element of separateness, which suits our respective temperaments and situations. Jesse requires alone time to recharge; I am often out and about attending events and taking meetings,… Continue Reading

In Defence of Unsexy Sex


  It wasn’t meant to be like this. It was meant to be candlelight and a perfectly curated playlist and rose petals on the bed and me opening the front door to you in nothing but a silk dressing gown; yet here we are, on a rainy Tuesday night, and I can hear the neighbour’s radio while the smell of the weekly batch of chilli wafts in from the kitchen and I’m having sex wearing a scarf; and not a sexy scarf, I might add. It’s the type of chunky-knit woollen scarf that one’s grandmother makes them because our tiny,… Continue Reading

Leiden Podcast – Episode 6: A Look Inside A Relationship


  This is Leiden Podcast a fortnightly podcast discussing all our favourite things: fashion, beauty, health and fitness. But we don’t stop there, we also interview amazing people, talk about relationships, books, pop culture, money and sex. In our sixth episode the cutest couple we know Leiden editor Emma Batchelor and copy editor Jesse Petrie chat about their relationship and whether or not they should get married. Leiden Podcast and it’s catchy jingle are produced by the greatest guy around Roshan Fernandez. Our artwork features an illustration of the ‘Leiden girl’ by Johanna Dziadkiewicz.   Links London College of Fashion… Continue Reading

Leiden Podcast – Episode 4: Relationships and Alcohol


  Welcome to Leiden Podcast a fortnightly podcast discussing all our favourite things: fashion, beauty, health and fitness. But we don’t stop there, we also interview amazing people, talk about relationships, books, pop culture, money and sex. In our fourth episode Leiden editor Emma Batchelor chats with Leiden gal Miriam Walsh about all the incredibly interesting things they have been doing, sex and relationships and alcohol. Leiden Podcast and it’s catchy jingle are produced by the greatest guy around Roshan Fernandez. Our artwork features an illustration of the ‘Leiden girl’ by Johanna Dziadkiewicz.   Links Alone: A Love Story Podcast… Continue Reading