Just Not That Into You: The Friendzone Explained


You’ve no doubt heard the term ‘friendzone’ a lot but in case you haven’t, what you need to know is that in pop culture the friend zone refers to a situation in which one member of a friendship wants a romantic or sexual relationship with the other person but this other person isn’t interested. This puts the rejected person squarely into friendzone, which usually ends up tugging on their heartstrings and causing quite a bit of heartbreak. Friends are very close to each other. They share their lives, their hopes and their dreams with their other person, so it’s very… Continue Reading

In Defence of ‘The Roster’


  Do you remember that movie starring Zac Efron called Are We Officially Dating? You probably don’t because it was a terrible movie but basically the main part that you need to know is that Zac Efron’s character is a well known playboy who lives his life by ‘The Roster’. Efron explains in the movie that the roster is when he rotates through a series of women throughout the days of the week to maximise on the sex and keep the emotions at arms length. He determines when it is time to cut a girl from the roster when she… Continue Reading

Seeking a Boyfriend for the End of the World


  I have been single for about a year and a half now and while my needs may have changed during that period, I have never stopped searching for a romantic partner. In my fundamental core I want a person that I am attracted to, am compatible with, have great sex with, and can grow with — is that so much to ask? Apparently it is, because I am still searching for that partner to cuddle up on the couch with, go out to dinner with and have adventures with. It just never seems to work out. Maybe it’s because… Continue Reading

Independent Togetherness – Addressing the Stigma of Remaining Unmarried


  Jesse and I have been a couple for almost five years. We own a home together. We have similar core values. We actively plan for our shared future. We are unmarried. And have no plans of becoming so. And up until recently, I have been very happy with this mutually made decision. Our relationship centres on our self-devised philosophy of independent togetherness. Although we are navigating our lives together, we maintain an element of separateness, which suits our respective temperaments and situations. Jesse requires alone time to recharge; I am often out and about attending events and taking meetings,… Continue Reading

Why Being Single Can Be Fun


  Being single can be really fun. It can be so fun that even committing to simple things like dinner with a friend can be hard. Is it then any wonder that the thought of sharing my life with a significant other makes me feel like there’s something very tight and possibly made of fire and glass around my neck? Being single when you’re a woman of my vintage, can really open you up to judgments, because let’s face it: if you’re single past a certain age group, people think that you’re either emotionally unstable, sit in the corner at… Continue Reading

The Dating Game – One Girl’s Tinder Journey


  After eating too many blocks of Caramello, countless packets of Twisties, and rewatching The Notebook more times than I care to admit (yes, I am that pathetically clichéd), I emerged from my post-break up hole and was once again single and ready to bloody well mingle. Whilst I never imagined myself getting Tinder, after one too many vinos with my fellow single girlfriends, we were all downloading the app and swiping left, right and center. And so begins my weird and wonderful Tinder journey. Whilst I’ve had some fantastic experiences and great dates thanks to Tinder, there have also been… Continue Reading