To the person having a crappy day, week, or month: embrace the suckiness. I know this sounds counterintuitive. People always say you should do anything you can to cheer yourself up when you feel down. Go for a walk, listen to some upbeat music, hang out with your friends. Just do these simple things and you’ll feel better. But sometimes it’s not that simple. Sometimes you just need to embrace the bad days as much as the good ones.
This is something I recently learnt. A few months ago, I went through one of those periods of your life when you just feel ‘meh’ about everything. I described it as being in a bit of a funk. I didn’t understand why I felt so apathetic about everything. I have a fantastic life. I have great friends, decent grades at uni, a job offer for next year after I graduate, and I am healthy and strong. But still, I just felt meh about it all.
‘Sometimes you just need to embrace the bad days
as much as the good ones.’
What was worse, though, was this immense feeling of guilt for feeling this way when I had no right to. I am incredibly lucky to have the life I do. Why should I be feeling so down when I am lucky enough to have so many opportunities? Then one day I decided to just stop fighting my bad mood and embrace it. As cliché as it sounds, I spent all day in bed and watched crappy movies and ate junk food and had my own little pity party. It was highly cathartic. That night, I actually felt better. It was like some of that negative energy had been released from my body.
Then it occurred to me. In an age where people only document the good things on social media, it’s so easy to compare your life to others and feel somewhat inadequate when you don’t match their standards or achievements. There seems to be more pressure than ever to always be happy and positive. As such, it’s so easy to forget that you’re fucking human. You’re allowed to feel however you want and need to feel.
‘You need to give yourself permission to feel down
every now and then because this is exactly what makes the good
days shine even brighter.’
You can’t control everything. Sometimes you can do everything in your power to be happy. You show up, smile, chat, and try to have fun. But if the timing isn’t right, then the timing isn’t right. You need to give yourself permission to feel down every now and then because this is exactly what makes the good days shine even brighter. You need to give yourself permission to be human. You need to believe that these moods happen for a reason and that sometimes we need to take a step back and trust that one day in the future this crappy time you’re having will make sense.